On The Subject of Carbs

We hear a lot about carbs these days, but there is something I’ve seen several times which I find irritating. Let’s start with a few basic questions.

What are carbohydrates, or carbs, exactly?

Foods fall into three broad categories.: proteins, fats, and carbs. Now protein is pretty easy to figure out. Meat is a protein. Dairy contains a lot of protein. And depending on how you look at it and what you pair them with, legumes can be protein sources.

Fats are easy also. Any type of oil, butter, nuts contain a lot of fat, as do olives and avocados.

Now, what about carbohydrates?

This is where I have questions. I have seen several different articles and posts about the order you should eat your food in, especially if you’re dealing with blood sugar issues. And the one thing they all have in common is this.

Eat your vegetables first, then fats and proteins, and then carbs.

Hold on.

What category of food is meant by “vegetables?”

If something isn’t a fat or a protein, it has to be a carbohydrate. How do you separate vegetables from carbohydrates? All vegetables are carbs, like it or not. It’s just that some of them are dense carbs, which contain a lot of energy per serving, such as starchy vegetables, sugars, grains, legumes, Others have a lower carb density, but are more nutrient dense. Think things like kale, broccoli, green beans, and cauliflower.

Yes, potatoes, sweet potatoes, sweet corn, peas, winter squash, are all high in carbohydrates per serving. They are all also vegetables.

I know. I’m being pick. But to me it is confusing when you separate one part of something and try to make it something it isn’t. If you want to separate vegetables into categories, then label them correctly.

Instead of saying eat your vegetables first, define what you mean. Low calorie vegetables. Low density carbs. Vegetables would include potatoes and beets. Low carb veggies would not. Just as High carb veggies would leave out all that broccoli and spinach.

Don’t mislabel a thing and call it a convenience. All vegetables are carbohydrates. It’s just that some of them go overboard on it. Others go light on the carb load. Maybe they’re watching their figures…

So, there are only three categories of foods. Protein. Carbohydrates. And Fats. From there, you can separate proteins into white meats, red meats, and somewhere you can put fish. Add dairy and eggs into the protein category.

Fats can be separated into animal fats and vegetable fats. So you have butter and ghee, lard, goose or chicken fat. No, I’m not going to list every single fat on Earth. Then you have olive oil, coconut oil, avocado oil, soybean oil, etc. But they are all fats of one kind or another.

And then there are carbohydrates. Fruits and vegetables. I refuse to get into the whole tomato argument., so decide that one for yourself. But vegetables can be divided into starches or high density carbohydrates. And non-starchy vegetables, or low density carbohydrates.

But they are all carbohydrates.

So are your fruits.

Anyway, enough of my rant. I just wanted to clarify for any of you who may have been confused by these posts and articles. If you’re watching your carbs, make sure you know what a carb is.

Thanks for listening to my complaining. I just get irritated when people misrepresent things and call them facts.

Stay healthy.

Stay safe.

And as always,

Remember To Be Kind…

The Changing Seasons

Well, at least they’re trying to change. Welcome to Northeast Georgia.

Here it is the middle of March. Earlier this week, the temperature was around 85. Yesterday, around 65. Today, around 75, with lovely sunshine, flowers beginning to blossom, and the peach tree all dressed in pink.

Tomorrow the rain will be back, most likely. And on Monday night, the temperatures are predicted to be below freezing again. With any luck, maybe some of the fruit trees will survive.

I don’t know about you, but I like my seasons to flow along naturally, not bounce back and forth between spring, summer, and winter at a whim. Has anyone seen Mother Nature recently? Is she behaving normally or is she off her meds again?

In the meantime, we’re trying to catch a break between rain showers to get the garden ready for planting. At the moment, however, there is still water standing in the low spots, so it may be a few more days, especially with more rain headed our way. Of course, the last thing I heard, Monday’s rain may be snow flurries instead.

So I’m back in the house working on my writing. I just released a new book under the Sultonna Nadine pen name you might enjoy if you’re a fantasy and romance fan. LADY CALLOWAY–A Question of Heresy–a fantasy, romantic suspense, religious conflict, alternate reality story.

What would you do if you had faithfully followed your priest’s teachings all your life, but suddenly found yourself labeled as a heretic by your husband–who works for the church.

And if you are the husband, do you choose your church and turn your wife in as a heretic? Or do you rescue her from the church you have served for years? The church or the woman you love?

Come with me on this journey of religious conflict, forbidden abilities, and a young couple caught up in the middle of it all.

In the meantime, welcome to spring–or winter… Have a wonderful weekend and we’ll chat again later.

For more on what I’m writing, check out my blogs at Mellie Miller–for my series books, or Sultonna Nadine, for the stand alone books.

As always,

Remember to be kind…

Scorching!

Earlier in the year, it seemed to rain every day and our garden was a soggy mess of drowned plants. My kale washed away completely and the Swiss chard looked pathetic. But we’ve traded the rain for scorching heat and dry weather. So now the garden is baking in the sun, the ground is cracking, and the mosquitoes are out in droves.

And with summer fully here, let’s think about all the outdoor activities. There are the barbecues, the summer soft ball games, golfing, swimming, hikes in nature.

We all love doing things in the summer without the cold and rain or snow of winter. But there are dangers here, too.

Make sure you stay hydrated when you’re outdoors. It’s easy to get busy and forget to drink. But over heating is a dangerous thing. I find it most difficult when swimming. Since you’re already wet, you don’t notice that you’re also sweating, making it a tricky combo.

Also, sunscreen is a thing. I know most of us know this, but a little reminder won’t hurt.

If you’re going out into nature, please cover up. I see people all the time walking around through the woods or meadows, up mountain trails, in shorts and sandals. Between the bugs, the rough terrain, and brush and brambles, a lightweight over shirt and lightweight pants would keep you protected. And don’t forget some decent shoes.

As for me, I’m editing another book right now, after releasing my latest shifter romance in June. If you’re a fan of paranormal romance and fantasy, check it out! Look for Old Flame at Amazon.

Better yet, go on over to my author blogs and see what’s happening in my writing world!

You can find me here, at MellieMiller.com or my other pen name, SultonnaNadine.com

Enjoy your summer, stay safe, and I’ll meet you again later!

And as always,

Stay safe, be healthy...

but most of all, be kind.

Sugar is Everywhere

It seems everyone is watching their diet these days, some of us more than others due to health concerns. Since I’m a Type 2 diabetic, I’m careful to watch for hidden sugar.

But it can be tricky. The stuff turns up everywhere! I’m not talking about places you would normally expect, like desserts, but places a lot of us don’t think about.

Here are some of the ones I’ve found.

Condiments, such as ketchup, salsa, and relishes tend to have sugar. I may have found one salad dressing without sugar in it, but I usually make my own vinaigrette at home. If I’m eating out, I get the oil and vinegar to add to my salad. Even dressings I wouldn’t expect to have sugar, such as bleu cheese, can surprise you. I have found one or two brands of ketchup without sugar, but they tend to be expensive. Salsa can go either way. Just check the label before you buy.

Summer is a great time for Barbecues! But beware the sauce! While sugar of some sort helps moderate and balance the tang of the vinegar, it does horrible things for my blood glucose. I found a recipe I could modify to make my own. Experiment a little!

Particularly watch out for sauces and seasonings in the Oriental Foods aisle. All those lovely things tend to have sugar in them, even some of the chili sauces and pastes.

Seasoning Blends are another gotcha if you’re avoiding sugar. That season salt my husband loves is loaded with sugar. Garlic pepper, most rubs, and seasonings for steak and seafood can all have a hidden sugar. Most of the spice blends at the grocery store contain at least some sugar. And if you’re diabetic, starches can be a problem also and are added to help the blend flow well. Maybe a shake or two of season salt wouldn’t matter, but I prefer not to take the risk.

One I recently discovered is dry roasted peanuts. The local grocery store where I do most of my shopping has a store brand of dry roasted peanuts. The salted and lightly salted versions both contain sugar of some sort. The unsalted are just peanuts. Other stores can differ, so watch the labels.

Stewed Tomatoes were a surprise for me. The whole tomatoes, diced tomatoes, and petite diced are fine. But all the stewed tomatoes I’ve checked contain sugar. So does tomato soup, as do several other types of prepared soup at the grocery.

Also watch out for canned peas and carrots. Why anyone would sweeten canned carrots is beyond me, but then again, no one asked my opinion on the matter. Kidney beans are one more item to watch. A few companies don’t use sugar, but most do. I don’t know why kidney beans in particular, since most of the other beans are fine.

Of course, all manner of chili beans and baked beans have sugar, but you kind of expect that. I have found one or two brands of chili beans which are sugar free, but you really have to search.

Hope this helps you out a bit. These were just some of the things I would never have thought to look at. It pays to check all your labels when you’re shopping.

Have trouble reading all that fine print? Grab your mobile phone and snap a picture of it, and then enlarge it so you can find out exactly what is in your food.

That’s it for today.

Stay happy. Stay healthy and enjoy your summer.

Ready For a Break?

If you are, come with me to a Japanese spa, or maybe a hot spring. Feel that wonderful mineral water as you soak and relax, letting your cares drift away.

All right, I know. You’re like me and can’f afford the journey.

But you can help set the mood in your own bath with a new candle from Mythologie Candles. Inspired by Fantasy, their candles offer unique scents reminiscent of myths and legends. The new Onsen Bundle captures the feeling of the Japanese spa.

Not ready for the spa?

How about St. Patrick’s Day? The new St. Paddy’s Day candles are ready! You can choose the Angry Leprechaun or Emerald Isle. Or take them both in the St. Patrick’s Day Bundle!

Not sure what you’re in the mood for? Just go on over and shop! Since I’ve discovered these candles, they have become my favorite scents. I particularly like the Camelot candles, The Blacksmith, and Dwarven Forge. But I’m dying to try the Onsen candles.

Go on over and, once you’ve experienced them, drop me a comment and share your favorite!

In the meantime, don’t forget self-care is not an option. It is a necessity. Do something good for yourself.

Now go out and spread a little sunshine with your smile.

‘Cuz everyone could use a little sunshine.

It Has Been A While

And it has been quite a time.

Earlier last year, I managed to pull the muscles and tendons in my foot and calf. There went my nice long walks for a while. But with summer coming on, things got busy.

Then came autumn, with multiple weddings and birthdays, along with the bridal showers, and all that goes with a garden wedding.

So, things were healing up nicely until my husband and I went to lunch. As my foot hit something in the parking lot of the restaurant, my still weak right leg couldn’t recovery sufficiently to keep me from falling.

And fracturing my right patella.

Two months later, just before Christmas, my doctor finally decided everything was healed enough to resume normal activities. But in the meantime, sitting for any length of time was painful, walking wasn’t fun, and the stairs were killer.

I’ve also recently had surgery for cataracts, so my time on the computer has been shortened, since it kind of makes my eyes tired.

Turns out all that research on stress helped me out!

I know. I’m a klutz. But funny!

So this has been my world lately. But I’m recovering nicely from all of the above, doing weight training and stretching to get those muscles back in shape. And watching my diet.

I hope to be back on a more regular schedule soon, so stay tuned!

And if you like to read, head over to my author web for news on my books: melliemiller.com

See you soon! Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

A Summer Walk

Sometimes we just need a break. Maybe a nice walk to get in touch with the nature. I know you can’t actually slip into my world just now, but…

...come walk with me. A virtual walk if you will.

Out the front door, we close the heavy iron gate behind us. The trees arching over the sidewalk invite us forward as we begin our stroll. Turning toward the little country road, we walk in the shade of the trees, cooling us from summer’s sun.

The scent of the earth after a rain surrounds us, as a cool breeze rustles the leaves. The crunching of our footsteps along the dirt and gravel lane provide a percussive note to the birdsong from the woods alongside.

Though it’s mid-day, the shade from the trees cools us as we walk along. Reaching a branch in the path, we turn downhill toward a little stream. The shade is deeper here, and the breeze coming up off the stream is wonderfully refreshing.

Before long, we hear the splashing of the stream as it tumbles over the rocky ledge. Turning off the path, we go down to the water’s edge, feeling the refreshing mist rising from the stream.

The interplay of light and shadow here under the trees, beside the stream, along with the woodland sounds, is soothing, relaxing. It feels as if all your troubles could float away, like fallen leaves on the water.


Stop for a moment.


Close your eyes and breathe deeply of the woodland scent. The smell of moist earth warmed by the sun, mingling with the wildflowers growing along the stream teases your senses. On the breeze, you catch a hint of newly mown hay from further down the path.


Take another deep breath. Hold it in for a few seconds before you slowly exhale, releasing your cares into the vastness of the universe. Listen as the sounds of nature speak to you soul.

I could spend all afternoon here by the water, but I need to go home. So we turn away from the water, taking a last look at the ferns growing there in the shade, and wishing we had time to climb out and sit on the log bridging the stream.


I fell lighter of spirit, somehow, as if a weight has been lifted. Back up the path to the turn, and then up the road toward the drive, we look out across a meadow filled with tiny yellow flowers.

Back to the sidewalk, we slip under the living arch, stroke the cat who is waiting there for us, and open the heavy gate back into the house.

I feel refreshed and ready to face the rest of the day now. I know, it’s time to say goodbye. But thanks for coming with me. I had a wonderful time.


How about you?

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Yes, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Since I’ve already written one blog post about it, let me simply refer you to it.

In the meantime, keep the girls checked out. Early detection is one of the keys to recovery.

A Little About Me

Photo by Dawn ThumbnailI don’t share much about myself sometimes, mainly because I don’t want to seem like I’m hoping for sympathy I suppose. Yes, I’ve been through a few things, but I’ve made it through.

Back in 2004 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. To hurry through the story, I survived chemotherapy and radiation therapy, losing my hair and growing it back again.

Since then, I have recurring symptoms which drive me crazy, but I think they’re a little less now than they had been.

But my scalp has been sensitive to products, which was not helped at all when I began to use a supposedly more natural product that made my hair loss increase drastically after about three months.

Nor was I alone in this. I have a good friend who had the same problem, as did our daughter. Three different people. Three different kinds of hair. Same issue. Unfortunately the company decided it couldn’t be their fault.

But since then, my scalp has been even more sensitive. Everything I tried over the counter either made my scalp break out in huge sores, or it made my hair loss increase. or both!

The salon suggested a product to me, which slowed the hair loss, but unfortunately made my head start breaking out again after a couple weeks. Where do you go from here?

Thankfully our daughter’s hair dresser suggested a product to her, which she loved and then suggested to me. I’ve been using it for nearly eight months now. My hair is filling in, it’s soft and smooth. It’s longer than it has grown in years without split ends.

And no sores on my scalp!

It’s amazing when you find something that works. And not only works, but works well!

Thank you, Tasha and Dawn for introducing me to these products. They’re amazing!

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Emotional Abuse

Black and white2Emotional abuse is a growing concern in our world, and since it is nearly invisible, the perpetrators go away Scot free.  It often stems from the need to be in control. We all know what physical abuse is, and while the victims oftentimes try to hide it, the symptoms are fairly obvious.

But what is emotional abuse? 

According to the Counseling Center, abuse is any behavior which tries to control or subjugate another person by fear, humiliation, verbal or physical assaults. Emotional abuse can include verbal abuse, constant criticism, intimidation, manipulation and refusal to ever be pleased.

Emotional abuse takes away its victim’s sense of self-worth, self-confidence, and their trust in their perceptions. The communication between partners develops into more of a parent/child pattern than one between adults.

Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

What are the symptoms of emotional abuse?

  • Feelings of isolation from family and friends.
  • Excessive dependence on him or her
  • You feel like you can’t plan ahead because of your spouse’s response to anything you plan.
  • You feel depressed or anxious most of the time.
  • You doubt your ability to speak your mind, and express your opinions
  • You feel like you can never do enough.

These are a few signs to watch for, but the list isn’t all-inclusive.

What can you do?

Sometimes, once a person realizes they are in an abusive situation, refusing to be a willing party is enough to start the changes in the relationship. Other times, marriage counseling can help.

And of course, last of all, when there is no hope of change, it becomes necessary to leave the relationship.

Don’t continue to consent to emotional abuse. Though the scars are invisible, they can be even more devastating than those people can see.

Take action today.