I Know. It Has Been a While…

But you know how things are. Life has a way of becoming hectic at times, and we’ve been through one of those periods lately. But to kind of catch  you up to speed, I thought I’d make a short post today.

My mother’s side of the family has always had a problem with Type 2 diabetes. I had hoped to give it a miss, since several people in my father’s family had the exact opposite problem–hypoglycemia.

But in November, 2018, our daughter insisted we go to the Urgent Care to have them look at one of my toes. When she looked at it, she found a small piece of metal embedded in the wound, which was healing far too slowly. Once the doctor there looked at the blood test results, I thought they were going to forget the toe altogether.

With a blood sugar of 417, they immediately sent me over to the ER. After several hours of sitting around and waiting for test results, they treated the toe and put me on metformin until i could see a persona physician. Several years ago, our insurance changed, and several of my doctors were out of network. Due to the whole new patient process to find a new doctor, I’d kept postponing it.

Our daughter is an LPN and she recommended a doctor to me. She had worked with him before and thought I would appreciate his approach to health care. Instead of waiting for me to make an appointment, she came over the next day and made the appointment for me, as well as one with a podiatrist I had seen previously.

My first visit was frantic. Although my blood sugar was down a bit–into the 300’s–Dr. Fogarty wanted to get my blood sugar down as quickly as possible. I hadn’t wanted to use insulin, but agreed to a once a week injection along with twice daily Metformin. The surprise was the diet he had me adopt.

I had been expecting a high protein low carb approach, but no. He asked me what the body ran on. Well, glucose. And then he asked what sort of diet I thought I should be on. Well, since my body’s glucose levels were high, I assumed low carb, which should lower my glucose levels.

Wrong! He told me he intended to flood my system with more sugars, with a different kind of diet. No meat of any kind, nothing processed. No flour of any kind. No added oils or salts. And obviously, no sugar. To keep the glucose levels level, I was to be careful with any starchy vegetables, fruits, and grains, but not eliminate them entirely.

Proteins would come from grains, nuts, and seeds. He suggested quinoa and chia seeds added either to grains or salads.

I thought the man was crazy, but it turns out he knew what he was doing. Score one for the doctor.

I started with an A1c of 11.5. Three months later, in February, my blood sugar was mostly down around 100 in the morning. My A1c was 5.5. Three months after that, my A1c was 5.4 and most of by blood sugars were below 120 after eating.

I’ve also lost 30 pounds in the process.

But with all the meal prep and figuring out what I can and can’t eat, and checking my blood 4 times a day, I have felt like I’m always playing catch up. My novel writing has taken a back seat as well. But since things are about to level out, I think I’ll have some time to get things going again.

I have been un-medicated since about halfway through March, and my blood sugars are still down in the normal range.

Anyway, I’ll write more about adjusting to this lifestyle change in my next blog. I hope to keep a sort of diary of my progress here and share it with you.

For now, have a wonderful summer. Eat plenty of nice fresh veg from your local vendors, and get out and enjoy the sunshine.

And if you like to read, I write fantasy romance, with a paranormal twist. And all my books are on sale at Smashwords this month. I hope to have another book out this summer, and I will be adding my book on cancer and a book on my experience with diabetes and Dr. Fuhrman’s nutritionist diet.

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A piu tardi…

A Little About Me

Photo by Dawn ThumbnailI don’t share much about myself sometimes, mainly because I don’t want to seem like I’m hoping for sympathy I suppose. Yes, I’ve been through a few things, but I’ve made it through.

Back in 2004 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. To hurry through the story, I survived chemotherapy and radiation therapy, losing my hair and growing it back again.

Since then, I have recurring symptoms which drive me crazy, but I think they’re a little less now than they had been.

But my scalp has been sensitive to products, which was not helped at all when I began to use a supposedly more natural product that made my hair loss increase drastically after about three months.

Nor was I alone in this. I have a good friend who had the same problem, as did our daughter. Three different people. Three different kinds of hair. Same issue. Unfortunately the company decided it couldn’t be their fault.

But since then, my scalp has been even more sensitive. Everything I tried over the counter either made my scalp break out in huge sores, or it made my hair loss increase. or both!

The salon suggested a product to me, which slowed the hair loss, but unfortunately made my head start breaking out again after a couple weeks. Where do you go from here?

Thankfully our daughter’s hair dresser suggested a product to her, which she loved and then suggested to me. I’ve been using it for nearly eight months now. My hair is filling in, it’s soft and smooth. It’s longer than it has grown in years without split ends.

And no sores on my scalp!

It’s amazing when you find something that works. And not only works, but works well!

Thank you, Tasha and Dawn for introducing me to these products. They’re amazing!

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When Does It Become Human?

Black and white2I can’t believe we are still asking this question. Actually, I can’t believe it was ever asked to begin with. I may not be a genius, but having grown up on a farm, there are a few things that I know for sure.

If you have a bull and a cow, and they mate, the offspring from them will always be a cow.

If you breed a stallion and a mare together, their offspring will be a horse of one denomination or the other.

Same with dogs, cats, goats, sheep. You name it. If you breed two of a kind together, you’ll end up with another one of that kind.

Ask anyone who raises animals for a living and they’ll tell you the same thing. You start with pedigreed cattle, you’re gonna have more pedigreed cattle. Non-pedigreed, they’re still going to be cattle, but there are more variables as to size, color, etc., which is why pedigreed animals are so expensive.

You’ve heard people ask a pregnant woman, “Do you know what it is yet?”

The answer to this question is either girl, boy, or twins. You never hear, “Well, last time we had the cutest little chimp. This time we’re hoping for a pony.”

Never. Hear. That.

If you have a male human being and a female human being and the two of them get together, there is no chance that their offspring will be anything but human. Can’t happen. Now there may be a wide variety of factors as to hair color, eye color, height, weight, and all those happy things that will come out of the genetic woodwork and surprise us, but it will be human.

It has no choice. 

There is no possibility, that once conceived, the offspring from two human beings, two homo sapiens, will be any more or less than human. There are no alternatives. Once conceived, this little being will become a human being. It will share the genes from its parents to become a unique individual.

But it will be human.

Just like the thoroughbred mare, when bred to a thoroughbred stallion will have a thoroughbred foal, two human beings together will produce a human baby. It could be the next Einstein, or it could be mentally or developmentally challenged. It will still be human.

You cannot make it anything else, no matter how you try. This little clump of cells, which is rapidly growing and changing, will eventually be born as a beautiful little boy or girl. A human boy or girl.

So let’s stop this whole “it isn’t human until so many weeks.” You cannot use this to justify the taking of life. It will always be human, no matter the stage of pregnancy.

I’m not here to tell you whether abortion is right or wrong. That’s above my pay grade. You can take that up with someone else.

What I’m saying is that from conception to birth, there is going to be only one outcome. Don’t try to to make abortion sound better by claiming the fetus isn’t human until it has reached a certain stage of development. If you feel the need to justify the act or make yourself feel better about it, find another way to do it.

Whether it is technically human at a particular point or not, the only potential it has, if it reaches term, is to be human.

Not a monkey.

Not a chimpanzee.

Not an orangutan.

Not a gorilla.

Not anything else but human.

Like I said before, I’m no genius. I’m not a geneticist, or biologist, or any kind of scientist. I’m a farm girl, a mother, and a grandmother. From the time I was able to walk to the barn to watch the miracle of birth, there are a few things which have remained constant.

Horses yield horses. Cows yield cows. Goats yield goats. Eggs from chickens hatch into chickens and goose eggs into geese.

There are no surprises as to species.

Human beings yield humans. End of story.

But if someone out there gives birth to a unicorn, I’d be happy to adopt it.

Emotional Abuse

Black and white2Emotional abuse is a growing concern in our world, and since it is nearly invisible, the perpetrators go away Scot free.  It often stems from the need to be in control. We all know what physical abuse is, and while the victims oftentimes try to hide it, the symptoms are fairly obvious.

But what is emotional abuse? 

According to the Counseling Center, abuse is any behavior which tries to control or subjugate another person by fear, humiliation, verbal or physical assaults. Emotional abuse can include verbal abuse, constant criticism, intimidation, manipulation and refusal to ever be pleased.

Emotional abuse takes away its victim’s sense of self-worth, self-confidence, and their trust in their perceptions. The communication between partners develops into more of a parent/child pattern than one between adults.

Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship?

What are the symptoms of emotional abuse?

  • Feelings of isolation from family and friends.
  • Excessive dependence on him or her
  • You feel like you can’t plan ahead because of your spouse’s response to anything you plan.
  • You feel depressed or anxious most of the time.
  • You doubt your ability to speak your mind, and express your opinions
  • You feel like you can never do enough.

These are a few signs to watch for, but the list isn’t all-inclusive.

What can you do?

Sometimes, once a person realizes they are in an abusive situation, refusing to be a willing party is enough to start the changes in the relationship. Other times, marriage counseling can help.

And of course, last of all, when there is no hope of change, it becomes necessary to leave the relationship.

Don’t continue to consent to emotional abuse. Though the scars are invisible, they can be even more devastating than those people can see.

Take action today.

 

Faith

 Black and white2What is faith? We’ve all heard about faith, but to many it is much the same as making a wish. And if it is nor more than wishing, why bother?

According to the bible, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” (Heb. 11:1)

But how do we put this to work in our daily lives? How can something we hope for have substance?

A wise man I once knew put it sort of like this. When you ask for something in faith, ask and then go out as if your request has already been answered. So if you’ve asked for a new job to come your way, go out knowing that something will come to you and then do what you need to do to find it. Read the want ads, post your resume online, ask your friends.

The person with faith will go out the door looking for the opportunity waiting for him. He’ll be excited, because he knows something will show up–either a new job, a raise, a promotion. Something positive will happen for him.

Chances are, it won’t just fall out of the sky, but you are looking for that job, knowing it will be there. And because you’re looking, you’ll see it when it shows up.

Don’t ask for a new job and then say, “Well, I’ll probably have to make do with what I have. For some reason, God has decided that I can never really get ahead, I guess to keep me humble. Besides, no one in this family has ever done anything. Why should I be the first?”

Do you see the difference? One person is asking for something without limiting God or the universe, willing to accept the new job which will come his way. It may not occur in a way he is expecting, but he’ll be ready for it.

The second person, by his attitude, is placing limits around what can happen. He is asking for something, but accepting, as fact, that it isn’t going to happen. And if he doesn’t expect it to happen, there is no faith involved, and chances are, when the opportunity is presented, he won’t be there to receive it. He’ll be looking back at his past and wishing it was different.

So how do we show faith? By asking and expecting to receive what we need. If you need a new job, and you ask for one, expect to find it. If you need a better car, ask, and then look for what you need, knowing God wants you to prosper.

 

 

This Thing Called Happiness

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Have you noticed that some people seem to be happy not matter what problems have cropped up in their lives. And at the same time, there are people with seemingly everything going for them who can’t find joy in anything?

What is this thing called happiness? What does it mean to be happy? According to the dictionary, it is “feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.”

Are you content?

Some of us are waiting for everything in our lives to be perfect–the perfect job, perfect mate, perfect car, perfect house, money in the bank, and an abundance of people to share it with. And that would be nice. The problem with this mindset, however, is that there is nothing in this world that is perfect. We are all flawed. That perfect job comes with irritations. Mates are human and cannot be perfect 100% of the time. The perfect car sitting in your garage will begin to have problems.

If you are waiting for something on the outside to give you joy and happiness, you are going to be waiting for a long time. Having things go right every now and then can help, but if your happiness doesn’t begin with you, it will remain as elusive as the white unicorn.

People who always have a smile on their face and a kind greeting for others, who are happy overall with life, even with its ups and downs, have learned an important lesson.

You will not be happy until you learn to be grateful for what you already have.

You will find what you look for. If you concentrate on being ill, being unemployed, not making enough money, chronic pain, then that is what you will find. And the more you concentrate on it, the bigger the problem will grow.

But if you look for things in your life which are uplifting, which are blessings, you’ll find more things to be thankful for.

  • Maybe you’d like a job that paid more. But you can be glad you have a job.
  • Perhaps your health could be better. But you woke up this morning and have another day to be thankful for.
  • Are you and your mate having difficulties? If you’re together, and both willing to stay that way, be thankful for your mate and the chance to work things out for a better, stronger future together.

There is a reason the scripture says, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” (Phillippians 4:8)

This is the recipe for happiness. Wherever your mind is, that is what you will have. If all you can think about are the negatives in your life, that is all you will find.

If you focus your mind on those things around you which are good, beautiful, and uplifting, you will find more of the same.

Here is my challenge to you. Every day for the next week, write down 5 different positive things about the day, 5 different things for which you are grateful. It doesn’t matter how large or small a thing it is. Start with the small things if you wish, and work your way up.

Did you see a pretty little butterfly next to a puddle that gave you a moment of brightness? Be thankful.

Maybe you saw a songbird sitting on a fence preening in the sun. Smile and say thank you.

Did you have to opportunity to eat today? Find a penny in the parking lot? Give thanks.

Whenever you find you’re thinking about a negative, push it away and shift gears. Focus your thoughts on something uplifting. Refuse to allow the negatives a place to live in your mind.

Nurture the attitude of gratitude and see what the future brings.

 

What Are You Reading?

Black and white2I was talking with Katandra Shanel Jackson today. She is the CEO of the publishing company here in Georgia called FreedomInk365. We were discussing how many people just don’t read anymore.

When was the last time you sat down with a good book and got lost in a fantastic tale? Fiction or non-fiction, there are books about anything you might like.

I talk to so many people who when asked, say they just don’t read. They’d rather watch a movie or the TV.

In this electronics age, I fear we are stealing imagination away from our children and grandchildren. When we were kids, we played  “pretend” everything. We had sticks and branches as swords, braided dandelions for crowns. And yes, my friend and I once caught a bunch of grasshoppers and tied them up with string so we could put our horses in a corral.

Boy was my mom mad. Untying them was quite a feat, too.

But without imagination,  whence come dreams? And without dreams what can we hope to accomplish? And without that hope, where will we go, what things will we create for our future?

When everything is done for you, on TV, in the movies, or on your tablet, there is nothing left for you to create in your mind. Ho imagination required. Just fetch the popcorn.

A good book, on the other hand, provides you the opportunity to create the scenes in it, to picture the countryside of renaissance England, or the quaint little street in the French Quarter of New Orleans the suspect just turned onto.

What about that wedding dress the sweetheart of our hero is wearing? Can you picture the lace with the pearl buttons? And our swashbuckling hero. How does he cope with a tuxedo and dress shoes?

So, what have you been reading? And if you’ve not been reading, it’s time to give it a try. It doesn’t matter what it is. What are your hobbies, your fantasies, your dreams?

There’s a book about that, I guarantee it.

Go on. What are you waiting for!

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